Love always protects

Love always protects

1 Corinthians 13:7

When you get married you believe that love is a Fairytale but its not. It is more like a full time job with out the pay or the perks of promotion. I didn’t know a lot of things before I got married. It took a lot of learning, not only learning from my own mistakes but also learning from God and learning the good and the bad things in a marriage. I recently finished reading, ”Things I wish id known before we got married.” by Gary Chapman. If you have not read this book you should, it doesn’t matter if you are married, single, engaged, lesbians, bi, gay or anything else. This book is amazing and shows you so many things you should know before you get married or even after you get married. Gary Chapman is a VERY well known marriage counselor who sits down with millions of couples a year. He is also the writer of the 5 love languages which is another amazing book that any married couple should read to learn more about your spouse.

When Jacob and I got married we didn’t know what either one of our love languages was, after almost 2 years of marriage I finally know what my love language is. Quality time it is giving the other person your undivided attention. I prefer being home with my husband watching a movie and spending time talking with Jacob about our days and about how strong we have become since we have got back together and become a stronger power couple. Jacob’s love language is Acts of service for those who have this love language action speaks 10 times louder than words do.

Are you having problems in your marriage? Do you feel like your spouse doesn’t understand you? Well you are not alone. There used to be days when I would feel different and weird and I just knew that Jacob didn’t understand me and couldn’t understand. But you want to know why? Because I didn’t love myself that is one thing you HAVE to do. You have to love yourself for someone else to be able to love you. God loves us unconditionally no matter what. One of my absolute favorite Christian movies is Fireproof, not only because I read the book but also because it helped millions of couples all over the United States. Fireproof shows you what God can do. If you have not seen it I recommend you to go to the Redbox or even Netflix and watch it.  With the book and movie, it produced the love dare. You have the love dare for 40 days and also the one for a whole year that helps you day by day fall in love with your husband or wife all over again. In the book, the husband played by Kirk Cameron ask his dad while on a walk talking about his problems with his wife how can you constantly show love to someone who doesn’t love you back? Then he realizes God is the same way. God loves us through everything yet most of the United States does NOT pray or show God the love back that he shows us.

Unfortunately your relationship has enemies, you have demons that will try REALLY hard to break you and your spouse down. This is just the devil trying to get to you and ruin your relationship. Don’t let the devil win! Any couple has trials and tribulations it is up to you and your spouse to turn to God and work through those problems. Is it really easy to turn and walk away from your problems? Yes but you owe it to yourself to stay and fight. I hate talking about my own personal problems but sometimes you cant help but try to relate to others. Jacob and I have been through a lot, in November I did move home to North Carolina and leave Jacob because I was running from my problems and I let the devil come in and ruin my marriage. I shouldn’t have been so naive but I was. However after 8 months away from each other and it finally getting through to me that I was not over my husband and I wanted to be with him, I started trying to get his attention and show him that I still love him. He fought me really hard, but do you blame him I left him and I hurt him. But finally after chit chatting with a friend at my job in NC he gave me a GREAT piece of advice that I took and sent Jacob a really long text message telling him exactly how I felt, it took a few days for him to talk to me after that but when we talked we agreed to try to work things out and it all started with a week vacation to Louisiana to see him. After this visit we saw that we both love each other more than words can express. It took us being around each other and talking about everything to finally work everything out. I couldn’t be happier than I am right now but that is just me.

It is a job, but you have to remember why you fell in love with each other. Did you fall in love with his smile, her laugh, the way he hugs you, or even the way she smiles at you and says she loves you. You can NEVER forget why you fell in love because that makes everything worse. The devil will play on that, he sends temptation into your life. The devil hates to see ANYONE happy. He might send a home wrecker to tempt your husband away from you; he might make you work 60 hours a week so that you can never see your spouse. Just remember to keep God at the center of your marriage and fight through ALL your trials and tribulations TOGETHER and you will be a lot better off. God is your best friend, and then it should be your husband/wife. Your spouse should be your best friend NO matter what.

This might have been something that speaks to you and is something you have needed to hear from someone that knows NOTHING about your relationship. But know that God is always there and will always lend a hand and is only a prayer away.

God bless and I really hope this helps you.

Xoxo

Rebecca Durrett